Much of what is labeled psychiatric disease is grief that has never been expressed or properly felt, or validated. If we have unexplored trauma, then it’s likely we have unexplored grief too. Some of us need to begin a grieving process that never started in order to heal. Some of us have a life-time of grief that needs to be allowed and experienced. We can choose to challenge our culture’s fear of grief and the dark emotions and begin to heal and turn it around.
Grief is subversive, undermining the quiet agreement to behave and be in control of our emotions. It is an act of protest that declares our refusal to live numb and small. There is something feral about grief, something essentially outside the ordained and sanctioned behaviors of our culture. Because of that, grief is necessary to the vitality of the soul. Contrary to our fears, grief is suffused with life-force. It is riddled with energy, an acknowledgment of the erotic coupling with another soul, whether human, animal, plant or ecosystem. It is not a state of deadness or emotional flatness. Grief is alive, wild, untamed and cannot be domesticated. It resists the demands to remain passive and still. We move in jangled, unsettled and riotous ways when grief takes hold of us. It is truly an emotion that rises from soul. – by Francis Weller, from Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World
Grief, like all the other difficult and/or dark emotions often gets pathologized, but it is an important part of life, without which we would not be human. Grief need not be pathologized even if it takes a long time.
i was lookin thru ur dragon hoards and i looked at the hoard of snakes n lizards one and there was not a single blue tongue skink in that pile. What the Hell.
really fucking tired of ppl trying 2 separate 50shades of grey from bdsm culture/community
acknowledging that 50shades of grey shouldn’t be looked at as anysort of positive example of kinkstuff/ that community isimportant
but dont you fucking dare try to assert that “but that’s not what real doms do” “its an example of an abuser not our community!”
like yes it fucking is, your community is full to the fucking brim with abusers